Sue is based in Ontario and has an EFT practice called EFT Coach on Call. She is also the main mover behind the Pay-What-You-Can Healing Community. In her own words - "My mission is to contribute to a better world by helping others find peace in themselves. I especially love to work with people who are committed to bringing more justice, love and joy into the lives of others, and may be neglecting their own needs in the process. I listen to them, tune into their feelings as much as I can and use a therapeutic tool called Emotional Freedom Techniques to help them resolve their emotional issues. I help them to fill their own emotional wells so they are better able to spread goodness in the world"
Is it more time alone that you crave? Or an opportunity to learn a new skill? Have you always secretly wished to dance on stage? Do you silently fantasize about a new career path? Have you always wanted to sign up for a painting class? Travel? Wear a different style of clothing?
Some of us are really, really BAD at giving to ourselves. And part of that is likely due to feelings of worth or beliefs around deserving. But even when some of those issues are clearing or have been cleared, it can be challenging to gift ourselves if we aren't even clear about what we want.
Please sit or lie down in a comfortable position, and eliminate any distractions in your environment. Close your eyes and take a deep breath, feeling the breath go all the way down into your belly. And fully exhale. Breathing normally. Now imagine you are in a very quiet space, by yourself, and you are completely SAFE. This space may be a secluded garden, a forest grove, an island, a clean, beautiful room indoors, of any other place that feels special, safe and secure.
You're seated comfortably on the soft grass or sand, or a cushion or rug. Feel whatever is beneath you supporting you. Bring your attention to your hands and notice that they're holding a beautiful brass lamp. It looks like what you imagine to be Aladdin's Lamp. It feels heavy. The surface is smooth, with slight indentations where it's engraved with the your name. The lamp is made of brass. It feels cold in your hands but it warms to your touch. You know, without a doubt, that this lamp has the power to grant your wishes - even those wishes you've never had the nerve to admit to yourself. What gift of time, or material resources could you imagine gifting to yourself? What experience do you WISH you could give yourself? Remember nobody will know what you wish for unless you choose to tell them. This is your private wish.
Now imagine what that would feel like, if you permitted yourself to have that gift. How would you be different? What you be saying about yourself that you don't say now? What positive things would OTHERS say about you? Imagine, as you bring your attention back to the lamp, that the energy of that wish is inside it. The energy of that gift. As you gently rub the smooth brass exterior energy begins to emerge from its interior, through an opening in the top of the lamp. What does it look like? You may see its colour and be aware of its texture as it swirls out and towards the top of your head. You may even smell the energy. You may taste the energy. It may have a sound. You may experience a physical sensation as the energy of your wish enters through the top of your head and then gently flows to every cell in every part of your body. Allow yourself to feel that energy - the energy flowing to every cell in every part of your body. And when you are ready, imagine sending it out into the world, in layers, in ripples, in waves, and then imagine it returning to you again. Imagine it in your body. Take a nice deep breath now, and exhale slowly. You've embodied your wish, given it life and sent it into the world. You've brought it back to yourself with the knowledge that you CAN grant your own wish, in whatever ways work for you. Now become aware of your body in the here and now, breathing normally, perhaps wiggling your fingers, gently moving your limbs. And when you are ready, open your eyes. Come back into your physical space. Know you have the right to wish for what you desire. Know that you deserve to give to yourself. Love yourself. Always.